Technically, divorce is the legal dissolution of a marriage.
However, not all couples get legally married, and their "divorce" can be equally devastating.
Ending a partnership does not mean ending the relationship, especially when there are children
involved. If divorce is inevitable, then it is important to disconnect with dignity and respect for one another. This often involves working on
communication, goal setting, and careful negotiation of new boundaries and expectations as you move forward as co-parents and ex-spouses.
Divorce counseling can involve...
- Communication skills training
- Letting go of anger
- Co-parenting
- Grief/loss issues
- Moving on
You don't have to be married to feel the pain of separation. Couples who have been together for a substantial period of time experience the
same feelings. Separation, like divorce, is one of the most stressful and painful events you may experience. Working through the grief of a failed
relationship or marriage can be daunting.
Therapy is an excellent resource to help you survive and put you on the path to finding new happiness.
Children and Divorce
Most children of divorced parents in the United States (40 percent of all children) adjust well to their parents' split. But 20 to 25 percent of
children have trouble dealing with their parents' divorce. Many of the problems these children have can last into their adult years. Researchers
at the University of Arizona performed a 6 year study that indicated children who attended counseling following the
divorce of their parents
had significantly less adjustment problems well into their teens than children who did not have any counseling. For this
reason alone, it is important that everyone in the family get the help they need.
Especially Difficult Situations
Divorce and separation can be especially difficult when there are extenuating circumstances.
It further complicates matters if you're trying to separate yourself from someone who is abusive or someone who
has additional problems such as substance abuse, or other addictions, such as gambling or pornography. Part of the
the function of therapy is to develop a strategy that is best for everyone involved, while protecting you from further
victimization. This can be done in individual or couples therapy, depending on your preference and what is safest for you.
Life During and After Divorce
The first step to rebuilding confidence and inner peace during and after divorce is to find out what's holding you back from redesigning a full,
vibrant life.
If you're feeling confused, afraid, angry or powerless after your divorce, here's the good news: You don't have to suffer through divorce recovery
and spend years trying to figure out how to get your life back on track. No matter how long it's been since your divorce – 1 week or 10 years -
you can begin to create powerful life strategies to move beyond merely "getting over" your divorce, and to begin living a full and joyful life
- a life you're genuinely excited about living. I can help you to set and achieve these goals at a pace that you're comfortable with.
For more information, please call me at (408)315-0645 or
contact me online.
